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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 19/05/2007 Posts: 644
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Hi everyone!
Just dropping by to say hi.
I hope you are all well.
The good news is....
I have a starting date for my building work to begin, which will be the 4th of October, gulp!!!!!
There's sooooo much to do, as we have to move everything out of the house, loft and shed, gulp again!
It will take about three months, so will be living out of suitcases for the next three months and over Christmas too :( but I'm sure it will be worth it 
The bad news is....
My DS1 is being bullied again at school, and only four days into the new year.
I'm at my wits end knowing what to do as this has gone for so long now.
I've sent out a post on cardmaking asking for advise, and if anyone has ever moved their child to anothe school due to bullying, have a peek over on cardmaking if you'd like to read the post, all advise welcome.
Another bit of good news to think about (at least for me :) is that when all the building work is done, I will hopefully have a little crafty space to call my own and escape to, can't wait!
Hugs and sparkles to you all!
Suzie xxxx 
 Suzieboo Crafts
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 31/10/2006 Posts: 1,424
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Hi Suzie, Firstly good news on the building front, I hope it all goes smoothly. I'm really sorry to hear that your son is having trouble at school again, it's one of the things we're really hot on at my school, and we rarely have any problems - you obviously get the odd name calling/falling out but nothing major. I assume you have spoken at length to the school, what did they suggest? Does your son have any special friends that he could spend time with at school or do they run a buddy system where he could go to an older child for help when it happens? I hope you get it sorted soon it's miserable when it happens, I remember being bullied for not having the most fashionable clothes and for being really tall Huggles Donna xxx
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 07/06/2006 Posts: 326
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Has the school not suggested 'special' tasks for him, so that he avoids these children at key points in the day? Erm we had one at a school once who hated coming in and so we invited him to come early for 'special tasks' it meant that someone had to come in 'early' to supervise but he came in at 8.30 am every day and put the chairs around the tables and got out anything we needed that morning, because he had a distraction and something to look forward to he came in without issues. The school have a responsibility of care and quite honestly they aren't keeping to that, if you really aren't getting anywhere you could go to the governers or even higher. I admit NO school will ever admit they have a bullying problem but see if you can't twist it round by not using the term bullying, The head and teaching staff feel threatened if you say bullying as your effectively telling them they are useless at their job in making the school a safe environment and will naturally react defensively and deny it. Try to tell them that they are not meeting the requirements to ensure your childs emotional care...he's clearly upset and the cause is school...they then have to do something to make sure his needs are met even if they are emotional and caused by other pupils and a lack of awareness and understanding on behalf of the staff witnessing and dealing with the situation. Tell them that to others this could be seen as something of nothinhg but to this INDIVIDUAL child it's not and as a school they ahve to care for individuals not just a mass of pupils. Tehy can't ignore a child who has special educational needs and neither can they ignore this! Most governers are parents and I would say you would get a LOT of support from them as it's something all parents feel strongly about, the only hicup I can see with that is if the goveners are the parents of the kids picking on your son... Alternatively who deals with pastorial care at the school? A lot of schools no longer have onsite school nurses but all deal with school nurses, if you wanted to really push it, contact the school nurse and ask her to address the head because of the emotional strain being placed upon your child. There should however be a pastorial carer within the school, quite often they double up as a SEN worker. I'll stop rambling now, sorry May the wings of the butterfly kiss the sun and find your shoulder to light on; to bring you luck; happiness and riches; today, tomorrow and beyond.  Sall
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 11/09/2005 Posts: 598
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Hello Suzie, so sorry to hear about your son, but as others have said, the school needs to take this issue seriously and deal with it. Take it to the governors and the Local Education Authority, they have a duty of care to your son and they have to do something. This must be so stressfull for you, esp with all the move/building work at home too. I really hope the school step up to the mark and stop shirking their responsibilities.
Sparkles for you and your son,
Jackie x jackieworcs
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 15/10/2007 Posts: 302
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I was going to say - Take it to the Governors too. Unless, as Sall says, it's one of the Governors children that's doing the bullying, then you must take it higher.
DS mustn't be put off going to school at such a young age.
Let the school know you are also moving house for a few months & you have enough to deal with at the moment without this. They must all have moved at one time & know what a stressful time it will be for you. Buntyfly
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 02/11/2006 Posts: 5,978
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Hi Suzie, firstly great news about the building work starting soon. Yes it will be disruptive and hard, but the end result will make it all worthwhile.
So sorry to hear your son is being bullied, I remember far too vividly my school days, for all the wrong reasons, so my heart goes out to you all. Glad your son was brave enough to tell you, you need to approach the school and speak to his form tutor and anti-bullying co-ordinator. Your son deserves to be safe, secure and happy and school, do hope the school stamp it out, tons of sparkles to you all.
finally, great news about having a crafty area, you so deserve somewhere just for you to craft in peace, can't wait to see the photos, hugs, Fi x
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 08/05/2004 Posts: 451
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hiya suzie, great news on the home front but so sorry on the other, sending you and your son, lots of sparkles that it gets sorted, I agree with the others start with teacher, head and governors then the head of the LEA, don't stop, as your son need to feel safe and secure going and being at school and you both should not being going to through this....hugs.... maria xx http://myhomefiles.blospot.com/
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Rank: Busy Member Joined: 19/05/2007 Posts: 644
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Thank you everyone for all your lovely replies and for taking the time to do so
DS has gone off to school today (a happier bunny) I phoned his teacher, and mentioned the problem that had happened and the history of this, and to please be aware and keep an eye on things. She spoke with my son, so hopefully things may improve.
I had previously been having monthly meets with the head regarding this, so will arrange again, just to keep ontop of this, and to nip anything in the bud. If however, things simply do not improve, I will speak with the board of governers. I hope very much not to have to go down this route, as I just want to keep things calm and happy (as much as I can for him) but as said if they don't improve, it's time to take further action. So fingers and toes crossed, things much improve before then.
Thank you again girls!
Suzie xxxx Suzieboo Crafts
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