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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 18/03/2007 Posts: 1,792
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I know I have brought this topic up before and I have been wrongly accused of looking for praise or recognition. But that does not excuse people being impolite when asking for help on here.
I know I'm not the only one it has happened to, but it seems to be the rule rather than the exception not to thank people who have taken the time to reply to questions.
Please remember you cannot now disguise the fact that you have been online to retrieve the replies as your name appears at the bottom of the page when you are online and more specifically when you are on certain pages, so it is obvious when you have been on to get the information others have left for you, and how long you are on there.
I get incensed at the lack of social etiquette people practice these days. It is taken for granted rather than as being helpful.
No I don't do it for recognition or praise neither does anyone else who reponds to people's requests for help, but a bit of common courtesy does no harm.
If we don't respect each other for the time and effort in their response then how long will it be before people just stop being helpful and we lose the very essence of this forum.
I know some will respond that if that is how I feel then stop doing it, but it's not in my nature not to be helpful and that response does not excuse the behaviour of some, thankfully not the regulars on here and not the majority of members.
So I have put this message under my posts:
Get it right be Polite 'THANK YOU' is not hard to write.
Rant over,so OK you can shoot me down now LOL A man alone  We are remembered, not by how much we love others, but by how much others love us. 'If taking part is what counts, and winning is the cherry on the cake, thank goodness I don't have a sweet tooth'.. Forum Etiquette "Get it right and be Polite, 'THANK YOU ' is not hard to write"
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 26/02/2006 Posts: 11,907
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would never shoot you peter,would rather hug you,xxx
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Rank: Busy Member Joined: 18/03/2007 Posts: 1,792
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Aww thank you Kay... I just don't like being taken for granted A man alone We are remembered, not by how much we love others, but by how much others love us. 'If taking part is what counts, and winning is the cherry on the cake, thank goodness I don't have a sweet tooth'.. Forum Etiquette "Get it right and be Polite, 'THANK YOU ' is not hard to write"
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 04/10/2006 Posts: 1,938
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like my grandma used to say "doesnt cost nothing to be polite!" Tanmo 
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 06/07/2008 Posts: 13,834
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As a child, if I said "can I have a biscuit?" my mum would just stand looking at me with her hands on her hips until I said "please". Then when I'd got it she did the same until I said "thank you". I soon learned, lol! That sort of thing doesn't seem to happen these days. Sandra x 
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 18/03/2004 Posts: 171
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It happens in my house! My 6 year old doesn't get anything without a please and thank you. Manners don't cost anything x Jacksmummy   I can't be creative and tidy.......today I choose creative
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Rank: Busy Member Joined: 18/03/2007 Posts: 1,792
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LOL Sandra and Tanmo,
Unfortunately, being polite is not taught to children these days how can it be when their parents are just as bad.
My mother often complains when she sends people money for their anniversary or wedding that they never send a 'thank you' notelet or even telephone to say thank you.
My nephews and nieces were all brought up to repect others whether young or older, and their property. But not so these days.
Thankfully, they have brought their children up with the same respect that they were taught.
My mother always says when she was young it was expected that she write a short note to thank relatives for presents, kindnesses etc.
But it seems the more lines of comminication we have the less we use them for social etiquette.
People spend endless hours on the PC and Web looking for things and doing research and in an age where children are taught to be computer literate from an early age we still don't communicate as much as we did before modern science made it easier for us to do so.
I suppose we can teach people to use these instruments but we cannot make them use them to make the world a better place... 'Twas forever thus
OO has anyone seem my ZIMMER frame, LOL
And now it's raining.... A man alone We are remembered, not by how much we love others, but by how much others love us. 'If taking part is what counts, and winning is the cherry on the cake, thank goodness I don't have a sweet tooth'.. Forum Etiquette "Get it right and be Polite, 'THANK YOU ' is not hard to write"
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 10/10/2007 Posts: 1,187
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i agree peter manners cost nothing i have helped a few peeps but im not so much in a rush to help so much these days unless i no the person. i was always told by my mum treat people how you would like to be treated sorry it wont let me do comma's today lol Sharon 
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Rank: Busy Member Joined: 10/10/2007 Posts: 1,187
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amanalone wrote:LOL Sandra and Tanmo,
Unfortunately, being polite is not taught to children these days how can it be when their parents are just as bad.
My mother often complains when she sends people money for their anniversary or wedding that they never send a 'thank you' notelet or even telephone to say thank you.
My nephews and nieces were all brought up to repect others whether young or older, and their property. But not so these days.
Thankfully, they have brought their children up with the same respect that they were taught.
My mother always says when she was young it was expected that she write a short note to thank relatives for presents, kindnesses etc.
But it seems the more lines of comminication we have the less we use them for social etiquette.
People spend endless hours on the PC and Web looking for things and doing research and in an age where children are taught to be computer literate from an early age we still don't communicate as much as we did before modern science made it easier for us to do so.
I suppose we can teach people to use these instruments but we cannot make them use them to make the world a better place... 'Twas forever thus
And now it's raining.... my kids have alway been brought up to say please and thanks you and to write thank you notes they are now 18yrs and 23 yrs and still do sharon xx Sharon
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 28/10/2007 Posts: 1,172
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Of course you don't do it for praise Peter, but a thank you brings a little smile and a feeling of a job well done. I'm with all the others. I too was brought up to say please and thank you and to appreciate the things done for me, costs nothing to be polite. Helen xx
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Rank: Busy Member Joined: 18/03/2007 Posts: 1,792
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I think you have hit the nail on the head.. People don't expect politness or courtesy from others so they don't give it either.
We don't learn by example anymore because the standards of example have dropped to the point of being almost non existant.
There is no point in punishing people for doing wrong if they don't realise that their behaviour is wrong.. We need to educate people so they know right from wrong and if they then persist then punishment is in order.
But how do people learn when their peers don't know.
Oh dear off me soapbox.. you can tell I'm bored can't you .
LOL A man alone We are remembered, not by how much we love others, but by how much others love us. 'If taking part is what counts, and winning is the cherry on the cake, thank goodness I don't have a sweet tooth'.. Forum Etiquette "Get it right and be Polite, 'THANK YOU ' is not hard to write"
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Rank: Busy Member Joined: 10/10/2007 Posts: 1,187
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i think the best thing to do is dont help those peeps again only the ones that have manners lol Sharon
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 25/05/2010 Posts: 3,140
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hi peter you do have a valid point and unfortunately as other's have said manner's are rarely taught now to the young as they were to our generation,and unfortunately it doesnt stop there etiquette in other area's are also missing take care hugs jenniexx  Friends are the flowers in lifes garden so choose them wisely
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 11/01/2005 Posts: 364
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Whenever I have helped someone, I must admit I have (apart from one)got a thankyou back, it made me feel good to have helped someone, and I too have thanked peeps for all the help they have given me (which has been on numerous occassions), do as you would have people do to you is my motto xx Ampsy
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Rank: Busy Member Joined: 18/03/2007 Posts: 1,792
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well Sharon I thought of that but it's a natural instinct to be helpful. I do it automatically before I even realise I have done it I have written a missive with lots of details and links. Being almost housebound it's my way of communication with other people via this forum.
It comes from years of working in jobs where customer service was paramount .. even in the theatre working with actors you had to be helpful or you got the cold shoulder LOL and working in close proximity the atmosphere needed to be congenial all the time.
A man alone We are remembered, not by how much we love others, but by how much others love us. 'If taking part is what counts, and winning is the cherry on the cake, thank goodness I don't have a sweet tooth'.. Forum Etiquette "Get it right and be Polite, 'THANK YOU ' is not hard to write"
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Rank: Busy Member Joined: 10/10/2007 Posts: 1,187
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amanalone wrote:well Sharon I thought of that but it's a natural instinct to be helpful. I do it automatically before I even realise I have done it I have written a missive with lots of details and links. Being almost housebound it's my way of communication with other people via this forum.
It comes from years of working in jobs where customer service was paramount .. even in the theatre working with actors you had to be helpful or you got the cold shoulder LOL and working in close proximity the atmosphere needed to be congenial all the time.
i no what you mean i work in a shop with some pretty horrible customers at times. i pack there bags for them i dont have to but i get no thanks for it which makes me not want to pack the next customers bag. i feel like saying to them a thanks wouldnt go a miss so i have to bite my toungue a few times lol. i have had money trown across the counter at me as well sharon xx Sharon
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 14/02/2007 Posts: 107
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I'm a bit worried now that perhaps I've not said thank you for the help I have received here. I really hope I haven't upset or offended anyone. You are all lovely people and so willing to offer your valuable time and advice. xxx
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 22/08/2005 Posts: 2,273
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Quite right Peter. Some of the responses you've had to this post remind me of the time my son was helping to give out water bottles to runners in the Robin Hood marathon in Nottingham; he wouldn't let go of the bottle until he had been thanked.... Sheila
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Rank: Busy Member  Joined: 03/02/2007 Posts: 8,068
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Couldn't agree more Peter.
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in life in general a thank you costs nothing  work or play pauline xxxxxxx treat everyone with politeness even though they are rude to you - not because they are nice but because you are !!
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